I’m into healing and emotional growth. I tend to look at the why behind the behavior. We can learn so much from other people’s experiences–what to do and what not to do. Here are four takeaways from Meghan Markle Was Never Cut Out For Royal Life.
- Racism should never be an automatic accusation because you feel insecure or overwhelmed in a situation. Racism is real and serious. When everything is labeled racist it downplays the reality and seriousness of racism. As a black woman, I can easily be hypersensitive about race especially when I’m in a predominantly white environment. I’ve learned to be discerning rather than automatically labeling everything racist.
- Invest in healing and emotional growth. Not too many of us reach adulthood without some sort of childhood trauma. Much of the hurt we experience as adults is often emotionally connected to our childhood trauma. Learning to look inward to examine our thoughts, emotions, judgments, and perceptions (introspection) is key to our healing and emotional growth. When we neglect emotional growth and healing we remain stuck in the past looking for others to blame for our current challenges.
- Just because something’s meant for someone else, doesn’t mean it’s meant for you. We’re all unique and have varied callings in life. Give yourself permission to walk away if it’s not meant for you. I have a great relationship with God yet I no longer attend church, but that doesn’t mean church attendance isn’t for everyone else. Be okay with walking away from what isn’t meant for you. Distancing yourself from a person or situation may be temporary or permanent but stepping away often gives you room for self-reflection and growth.
- Recognize your greatness and others’ greatness as well. You don’t need to put others down to make you shine. Nor do you need to compare yourself to others. Jealousy is one of the biggest thieves of joy and inner peace. There’s enough room for everyone to shine in their own light and giftedness. Don’t be threatened because others are shining and doing well at something you’re not called to do or something you’re still learning to do.